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I’ve been thinking a lot about friendship lately and all those who play such an important part in my life. I am blessed to have many genuine friends. People I know who truly love and care for me and will always be there for me no matter what time, or what situation.
There are many people who are surrounded by their "friends" yet they are actually friendLESS. In actuality they have many acquaintances, but never build any solid relationships. Many people cannot identify true friends. They think anyone nice who comes along and stays a long while with them in life is a friend. There are “friends” and there are “genuine friends”’
So, who exactly is a “genuine friend?” A genuine friend has no self-interest when he befriends you. He loves you for you. Genuine friendship is rare...to find it is like looking for hidden treasure. If you want genuine friends you have to be willing to do the loving first. It takes risks. It takes possible rejection and possible hurt, but it's the only way we can develop genuine friendship.
Do not be choosy about people you welcome into your life. Welcome all. But sift those people you'd consider your genuine friends, as not all of them will be. As you welcome people, genuinely love them. As you do so, notice how they react. Will they in turn love you freely? Or will they only see your usefulness to them?
Determine those who will genuinely love you for who you are and not for what you can do for them. Learn to distinguish those who really care from those who merely take advantage. Develop a good eye for genuine friendship, and invest your lives in them once you see one. True friends love you with their lives as well. Once they see your genuine friendship, they readily reciprocate. Place your investments on friendships with potential for genuineness. By doing so, you lesson your chance of getting hurt once a so called friendship degrades to betrayal or abandonment.
Everyone experiences this pain from one or more relationships in their lifetime. It is important that you allow peace and happiness to return to you. If it hurts so much that it affects you terribly and bitterly, it only means the friendship was not genuine.
When you have spotted genuine friendship, invest on it and make it grow. Then make it last. How do you make it grow? The same way you make life grow--by love. Genuine friendship grows through love--unselfish love and that love makes it last.
Thank you to all my genuine friends. You know who you are. If you don’t than you are probably not one but thanks for reading my blog anyway!
